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Monday, October 19, 2020

Being Homeless during Covid - 19

 Being homeless is already hard but it'seven harder to be homeless during this pandemic which is very unfortunate and probably difficult to deal with. Now, what are some good ways you can survive, live, and stride in today's world's current conditions?


1. Having A Plan

Having a plan is the simplest but important step in improving your life and making the best of your situation so what are some good and easy ways of making  

One of the main concerns of being homeless is where to sleep or rest, too. There are shelters for the homeless or abandoned buildings you can temporarily stay in, though.

You need to check the structure of the building as it may already be weak since it’s abandoned. Find a spot closer to the exit or beneath a support beam so it’s safer.

In case you don’t find shelter and you’re forced to sleep on the streets, try finding a spot where there are other homeless people. This area is probably where the police won’t bother them, and there’s also safety in numbers.

It’s also possible they’ll intimidate you, so you need to prepare for that. If you want to have a more intimate spot though, try looking for bushy areas.

So then there is finding the right clothing to wear It’s hard to survive as a homeless person if you don’t wear the right kind of clothes. So wear enough to cover your body and keep you warm but not hot.

You can wear long sleeves and layers of thin clothes. A pair of zip-off cargo pants are also a good choice since you can easily switch from pants to shorts. The pockets could also give you extra storage for your essentials.

Staying warm, when winter comes up, store thick winter coats, wool beanies, and lots of socks in your survival gear. Besides practical clothes, you need other items to keep you warm in your survival gear.

You can also get your hands on a thermal blanket if you can. But if there are not enough to maintain body heat, boil water and place it inside water bottles.

Then, surround yourself with these hot water bottles before covering yourself with blankets. They can keep you warm and protect your hands from frostbite, indeed.

Being neat try to keep yourself neat, even if the chance of taking a shower does not come by often. So, make it a point to store wet wipes in your survival gear.



Go to public toilets where you have access to running water and clean yourself properly. By keeping a clean look, you can improve your self-confidence and have a more positive outlook on life.

Making yourself presentable will help you gain friends and handouts easier, too. That’s because people are most likely to respond positively to someone who looks clean. Having a clean look also makes it easier for you to blend in and not be shooed away by security guards.

Never leave your things unattended because others may be worse off than you. Always have them beside you and don’t get too comfortable, even if the place looks safe.

You can’t afford getting robbed when you’re homeless since you have limited resources, so have your things packed and always prepared to leave when you need to. Cops and other homeless groups might kick you out.

This is among the basic survival skills you need to learn while you’re out in the streets. That is to avoid conflict at all costs.

Unless you’re physically attacked and need to defend yourself, fighting simply isn’t worth it. You may end up with scratches, bruises, or even broken bones, and this is a bad thing if you don’t have access to a clinic or hospital.

Worse, a cop may pick you up so what happens then? That’s why you need to stay calm and always walk away from trouble before they even begin.

Always keep a first-aid kit in your survival gear because in your situation anything can happen. What’s even worse is you don’t have easy access to medical facilities so you have to rely on your own.

You can recycle some of your things to apply first aid, but you really need to have medicines with you. Pain relievers, antiseptic solution, and antibacterial ointments are some of the items you need.

2. Staying Healthy 



Use fruits and veggies to replace higher calorie foods and help to maintain a healthy weight. If possible, include a variety of colorful fruits and vegetables every day. Try to select fresh produce when in season or choose fruits and vegetables along with canned options with reduced salt and no sugar.

Staying clean is the hardest part of being homeless, but to stay or get employed you have to be clean, smell clean, look clean.

Find a place to shower. Planet Fitness has $10 a month memberships. If there's one in your town, join. You can maintain your health and hygiene there. If you can't afford or find a gym, find a community center, or a YMCA. The Y offers low to free memberships for the homeless.

If there is no Y, or gym, or community center (you're rural), find a McDonalds or Burger King. They have the best bathrooms because most of their stalls have doors. You can take a collapsible bucket in, fill it with water and take a sponge bath in the privacy of the stall, then brush your teeth etc. at the sink.

If you're in a rural area there are almost always streams and rivers to bathe in. I bathed in a waterfall for two months when I worked as a raft guide in college. The well at the dorm was always running dry, and it was the only option most days.

Laundromats are a must have. Try to look for apartment complexs with laundry facilities rather than public laundromats. The cost is almost always $1 to $3 a load cheaper. If you are college age, dorm laundry facilities are the best, but security on campuses, plus parking hassles, can be a deterent.

If you go into a laundromat with ONE load of clothes and explain your situation I'm betting 90% of people will pay for your wash/dry for you. I certainly would.

If you're in a big city, you're in luck. Many high rise office buildings have bathrooms on the upper floors with showers. I found two in Denver and used those during the day to take a QUICK, and I emphasize QUICK, shower because employees use them in the am. and at lunch to shower after running or working out and they will know if you belong in the building or not. If you're going to use a shower in a public building wear workout gear - sweat pants and t-shirt etc., so you at least LOOK like you work there and belong.

Some major airports have showers. In Europe I noticed there were as many showers in the airports as bathroom stalls. They were generally free, but you had to provide your own towel.

Carry a superabsorbent (and small) bathtowel, washcloth and soap with you in your pack so if you ever do happen upon a shower you can take advantage of it. Never pass up the opportunity to take a shower, even if you had one a few hours prior. Use deodorant liberally, but don't substitute it for a shower unless you have to. Wash your pits, crotch and face every day (not in that order tho).

If you can't find a laundromat, but have a job interview and no clean clothes, hit Goodwill or the Salvation Army. You can throw together a good outfit for less than $10 if you shop right. Another point, always keep at least one outfit clean for job interviews. This is easier if you have a small storage unit or car to store extra stuff in. If all else fails, get a locker at a gym, or airport or someplace to keep your stuff. Ask a friend if you can keep a footlocker in their garage or on their property where you can keep some things. Consider buying a small rubber tool tote you can padlock to a tree in the woods and camoflauge if you have nothing else. Get creative.

Maintaining health is a matter of eating healthy - also hard to do when you're homeless. Dumpster diving can actually provide you with good food if you know when to scavenge. Most food in grocery store dumpsters is in its original package, even still frozen. Just pull it out and heat and eat. Many farmer's markets and stores will give you, or sell at a greatly reduced price, their leftover veggies - especially if you tell them your situation and offer to help them load/pack up at the end of the day.

The only thing standing between you, your health, hygiene, and well-being is your creativity and yourself. Ask, be matter-of-fact, truthful, and honest about what you need, and offer something in exchange for what you want and you will always find a way to get what you need.


3, Staying Positive 


I know this would be easier said than done definitely when homeless How to stay positive in these situations? Here's how I handle it. 



1. Keep busy. Being alone with your thoughts is the killer. Don't brood, is what I mean. 


2. Focus on the immediate problems at hand, not the big picture. Take it five minutes, 20 minutes at a time. 


3. When you get a small task accomplished feel good about it. Focus on what you have accomplished, not how far you need to go. 


4. Take time to breathe. Panic is the worst of all. Panic never solved a problem.


Bonus Tip!




Find yourself a stray pet dog that will serve as both your friend and companion. Even though you’ll have another mouth to feed, you’ll find they’re worth it.

Your pet dog can even be your bodyguard, protecting you from thieves and harassers, too. In fact, dogs are loyal animals that will stick with you through thick and thin — just as you need.




Help The Homeless

Please if you need any help you can reach out to me or anyone in that case please stay safe!

Saturday, September 19, 2020

Why Women Aren't Attracted to Nice Guys

 Why being the nice guy isn't worth it



For all the male viewers Most guys can't figure out why women aren't attracted to nice guys. In fact, most men have, at one point or another, uttered the phrase, "Nice guys finish last" as a way to explain their dating problems, single statuses, and more.

The concept of women not finding nice guys attractive is insanely common as a belief. In fact, it's become enmeshed in our culture. It's a movie trope, a rom-com classic, and some guys actually will go out of their way to say they are nice guys because of it.

What most men don't understand is that women do find nice guys attractive, but they don't find Nice Guys attractive in the least bit. Though they may think they see the difference, the truth is that the vast majority of single guys I've met don't.

Or rather, they can't. Here's why women aren't attracted to Nice Guys, but why they do tend to fawn over guys who are nice.

What is a Nice Guy?

In order to understand why women aren't attracted to Nice Guys, you need to know what a Nice Guy is.

A Nice Guy is a man who is nice for the sake of getting a girl's number. He prides himself on being a gentleman—sort of. Rather, he's not really a gentleman. He believes that being polite or going out of his way means that he will get a girlfriend or sex.

He's a doormat of sorts, primarily because he's worried that anything he says even remotely sideways could upset girls and make them walk away. He doesn't really show his real personality. He is often insecure and has very unrealistic ideas about how courtship really works.

In other words, a Nice Guy is a person who tends to view women as dating sims. To a Nice Guy, a woman's interest or attraction to him doesn't really factor into the equation. Moreover, they tend to believe that love should involve a "fair chance," even though they themselves wouldn't give an unattractive girl a chance.

Nice Guys often believe that manners or employment alone entitles them to a date. They often lack social skills. Simply put, they are guys who were raised on badly written, cliche rom-coms and believe that they are how dating should work.

Now, you might already notice a lot of reasons why women wouldn't want to date a Nice Guy. However, it's really important to dish out every aspect of it in detail so that you get a full understanding about why Nice Guys aren't dateable in most women's eyes.

Saturday, August 29, 2020

COVID-19 GENERAL STRESS AND COPING TOOLS

 The resources on this page emphasize several evidence-based self-care and coping strategies to reduce the stress associated with the COVID-19 pandemic. It is recommended to:



  • stay virtually connected to loved ones through video chats, calls, texts, social media, apps, and email
  • stay physically active with daily movement and exercise
  • maintain regular sleep patterns and stick with routines to provide structure to your days
  • eat healthy, stay hydrated, and avoid excessive consumption of sugar and alcohol
  • limit exposure to distressing media
  • stay informed with credible sources of information and avoid the spread of misinformation
  • practice stress management techniques such as mindfulness, meditation, yoga, and controlled breathing
  • try to let go of anxious thoughts about what you cannot control and instead try shifting your attention to the things that are within your control

  • seek professional support as needed if you or a loved one are experiencing significant stress or impairing anxiety

Resources

 FACE COVID  Ebook by Russ Harris
Afrontar el COVID (en español)

Based on Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, this 12 page Ebook presents a practical approach to safety and emotional wellbeing in the time of COVID:

  • F = focusing on what’s in your control
    A = acknowledging thoughts & feelings
    C = coming back into your body
    E = engaging in what you’re doing
  • C = committed action
    O = opening up
    V = values
    I = identifying resources
    D = disinfecting & distancing

 NAMI: COVID-19 Resource & Information Guide (National Alliance on Mental Illness)

Information guide which addresses common concerns for those with mental health conditions & their loved ones, those who are quarantined and feeling isolated, those with loved ones who are elderly or at higher risk, those with a loved one who is incarcerated, those without medical insurance, those experiencing financial hardship, those who may be homeless, etc. NAMI’s guide provides helpful tips for coping and can help connect others to additional information about support services, assistance programs, housing, and mental wellbeing.


★ PTSD Coach Online (National Center for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)

Anyone who is experiencing stress or anxiety can benefit from the tools and strategies found here. This site offers supportive tools for dealing with the following common emotional experiences: worry & anxiety, anger, sadness or hopelessness, sleep problems, trauma reminders, avoidance of stressful situations, disconnection from people, disconnection from reality, difficulty solving problems, uncertainty about direction in life.


 COVID-19 and OCD (International OCD Foundation)

Toolkit for those struggling with symptoms of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder and their loved ones. Information and strategies for coping with the additional stress resulting from the COVID-19 pandemic, including resources for kids, teens, families, and therapists. Includes self care tools, teletherapy options, weekly discussions, and informacion en Español.


★ Coronavirus Anxiety Workbook (Jamma International)

Comprehensive workbook for managing anxiety in the context of coronavirus. This workbook utilizes Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques to help the reader identify common physical & cognitive manifestations of anxiety, offering worksheets and practical tools for working with thoughts, seeking healthy distractions, building self-care routines, using gratitude practices and breathing exercises to calm the bodymind.

    Monday, August 10, 2020

    Top 5 Inspirational Movies

     Lacking in inspiration? These top 10 will be sure to inspire you to complete your goals.



    1.) The Bucket List (2007)

    Two aging men end up sharing a hospital room together, both terminally ill. Edward (Jack Nicholson) turns out to be the owner of said hospital, and Carter (Morgan Freeman) is a mechanic for a garage. Both from very different backgrounds, they form an unlikely friendship and decide to do everything on their bucket list before dying. Although a comedy, this movie highlights the importance of living life to its full potential before it’s too late. The unlikely friendship formed between the two protagonists helps them find happiness in life and realise if they’re going to die, they may as well do it in style.

    2.) Gladiator (2000)

    A Roman general’s family is murdered by the emperor’s son, with his life left in ruins. He enters the gladiator world in order to return to Rome and take his revenge on the son who has since become the emperor. From fighting in the dirt to fighting in Rome’s colosseum, this inspiring story demonstrates that nothing is impossible if you have the willpower (and great fighting skills too).

    3.) Warrior (2011)

    A mixed martial arts fighter (Tom Hardy) decides to reunite with his alcoholic father who was once a great boxing trainer, in the hopes of winning an international MMA competition. In his ventures into the world of MMA he comes across his estranged brother who is competing in the same competition. The reunion of a broken dysfunctional family destroyed by alcohol and cancer sets a depressing context for the characters, but the aspirations of the sons demonstrates you can leave the past behind. Relationships are healed and axes buried, contrasting greatly with the violence of MMA.

    4.) Invictus (2009)

    Starring Matt Damon as South Africa’s Rugby captain Francois Pienaar and Morgan Freeman as Nelson Mandela, Invictus depicts the release of Mandela from prison and his attempt to fix apartheid damage in time for the Rugby World Cup. To see a country previously ripped apart by racism reunited by the efforts of a president and rugby team is truly awe inspiring. Captured in the neolithic power of rugby players and the inspiring words of Freeman, there is no doubt you’ll be left feeling inspired.

    5.) Braveheart (1995)

    Mel Gibson plays the heroic William Wallace, hero of Scotland, during the suffocating English occupation of Scotland. With his partner murdered and his friends abused, Wallace decides to make a stand against the English and slowly take back Scotland. As it is set in the perspective of Wallace, the audience obviously sympathises with his situation. Full of revenge and justice, this is definitely a movie not to be missed.

    Friday, August 7, 2020

    5 Proven Ways For Overcoming Obstacles

    Ways For Overcoming Obstacles

    Overcoming obstacles can be difficult. By definition, an obstacle is defined as something that obstructs or hinders progress. Obstacles come in many forms, both at work and at home.

    According to Kevin Daum, obstacles naturally fall into three categories:
    A. External obstacles. External obstacles are those that are outside of your control. Examples include the economy, natural disasters, physical limitations and the actions of the people around you.
    But just because these obstacles are outside your control, it does not mean you simply throw up your hands and give up. What is in your control is your own behavior and how you react and deal with the external obstacles that are thrown at you.
    B. Internal obstacles. Internal obstacles are those that you do have control over. Some common examples of internal obstacles are needing more money, wanting a promotion at work, trying to lose weight, and improving a strained relationship with your family member or other loved one.
    C. Habitual obstacles. Habitual obstacles apply more generally in your life and may only be eliminated by making a global change. Common examples of habitual obstacles include feeling constantly stressed out, getting angry too easily or being prone to procrastination.

    1. Understand the obstacle

    We naturally tend to move quickly to a solution without first fully understanding the issue at hand. This is an easily understandable impulse – your to-do list is a mile long, and you want to quickly finish this task and move on to the next one.
    Let’s say you are trying to complete a project and an obstacle arises that must be dealt with before you can go on to the next step. Your typical thought process probably goes something like this:
    A.) You evaluate the problem briefly.
    B.) You think that you know what to do, and without much further thought, you start to implement your solution.
    C.) After some significant period of time passes, you realize that you have been going about this all wrong as your solution is not working.
    D.) Back to the drawing board!
    Our goal is to help you avoid this. It may sound obvious, but taking the time when first faced with a new obstacle to carefully consider the best resolution is critical, and is a step that most people skip. Why do we skip this step? We think it is because we don’t want to face the hard reality of a daunting problem.
    But the truth is that it is an investment of time that typically pays off very well in terms of overall savings in time and expense spent. After all, if you don’t completely understand all aspects of the obstacle you are trying to overcome, how can you ultimately be successful?

    2. Dealing With Health 
    Another major problem that might come up in your life is a health crisis. This is not far-fetched because our body systems work round-the-clock, even when we are sleeping. As a result of this, and if you don’t maintain routine health habits, health deterioration might begin to set in. Things might even get serious if you don’t attend to it early.

    3. Relationship, Marriage, and Family

    There may not be anything as sweet as love and family life, but it can also be the source of pain for some. Human imperfections in a relationship can cause a major crisis in life. This has been a stumbling block to many on their path to fulfillment.
    Solution
    The best thing to do is to prevent relationship problems from happening, but if they do happen, you need to face reality and begin to take steps towards addressing them. Do your best to keep the lines of communication open as this can help in strengthening your struggling relationship. Talk about the challenges with your partner and look for common grounds.
    You can also arrange to see a counselor together or read books that address the specific challenges you are facing. The worst thing you can do is to end a relationship and that’s only when you have exhausted all other options.

    4. Workplace problems

    The workplace is supposed to be a place where we dutifully render the services for which we’ve been hired.
    However, it is not impossible to face animosity at work—dealing with toxic people who would rather not see any good in what you do. It might be caused by differences in background, attitudes, and unhealthy competition that can result in personal conflicts. This can create undue stress and reduce productivity.

    Solution

    Be as professional as possible when dealing with toxic people. Be kind and show understanding, and try to avoid personal confrontation.
    You can even try to reach out to the persons and invite them over for a coffee and get to understand their worldview. This can help you to connect with them at their level so that you can avoid unnecessary stress for yourself.

    5. Emptiness and Boredom

    When you are in a rut, everything becomes normal, dull, unproductive, and yet difficult to change. This can lead to feelings of emptiness and boredom. This may not seem like a serious life problem, but it can have a great impact on your life.

    Solution

    To overcome boredom and emptiness, break out of your routines, and deliberately create a new experience for yourself. If you can’t leave your job to find a new one, start doing other things that reflect your true passion. Sometimes, the things that give us the needed drive in life are not our day jobs.
       
    There is always a benefit and/or positive side to solving problems. Remember that if you solve a problem, even a difficult one, it is one less thing to worry about, and one less problem on your problem list! 
    Remember the goal is to find the best solution to your problem, NOT the perfect solution. If there was a “perfect” solution, you would have already found it.